Divorce--Reposting

I had put this posting on this blog several months ago. I took it down shortly thereafter, but I really don't know why. So I am putting it up once more--unedited so the timelines are not correct for today.

Today is one month anniversary of the divorce being finalized. I thought final was supposed to mean final, as in no more hassle with that crap. But one month after the papers were signed there are still one or two things in a state of flux.

First because the ex decided to find an attorney from a fortune cookie or maybe in the bottom of a box of cracker jack (is that still made—hang on—googling—yes somewhere you can still buy Cracker Jack—good to know) we slog through the mess he made of the child support paperwork. Simply put, he did not file the correct forms or did not file all the required forms. Then to complicate matters, he is not responsive to anyone. He works on his own schedule. This has been one of the most frustrating parts about all of this. Not only do I have to put up with the hassle of continuing to communicate with the person I like least at the moment, I cannot get past the mundane tasks of the divorce. And why is this--because of her choices. So once again her bad choices affect my day too day life. Luckily I have a pretty good attorney on my side. At lease I feel like she knows what she is doing. So I am not without resources to get this solved.

I have not written about this part, but the emotional distress on me due to the divorce has been very little to nothing at all. This is because I felt the emotional connection was over a long time ago. My emotional hassles in all of this have been frustration at how she has handled issues which did not need to be handled so they were ugly or dirty, but that is how she chose to handle these things. And I hate the effect it has had on Linda. She has had to change schools, move to a different home and basically start fresh.

But it has brought Linda and me closer. So that is a positive.

What’s next for me? Opportunities are unknown but they are out there waiting. I embrace the new chapter.

New addition added on 01/23/11
In the end, my attorney was crap too. Apparently she cared until it became a hassle and inconvenient to care. I was almost to the point of reporting her to, well whomever one reports crappy attorneys to.